SELF CARE is SELF LOVE

by Adelina | Dec 30, 2020 | 0 comments

Many Silver Sisters in the community consider Nina @naturally_graysful the Silver Community’s Self Care Ambassador. Her thought provoking posts and videos prompt us to take a look at how we, as women are often hard on ourselves, even though we spend much of our lives nurturing and caring for others. Here Nina helps us put it into perspective and shares a few helpful tips with us:

SELF CARE is SELF LOVE

Simple ways to allow yourself grace and compassion

Do you want to know the one practice that will help you in this season of change? Then keep reading.

Jack Kornfield said it well when he said: “If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.” There are many resources out there teaching self-improvement, how to be more positive, and emotionally intelligent and while all of these things are helpful, what I found missing was self-compassion during struggles and setbacks.

My life experiences and challenges led me to this practice of self-compassion which I feel is an act of self-love. What I love about self-compassion is that it doesn’t require circumstances or people to change. It just requires us to be gentle with ourselves when dealing with change or struggles.

Dealing with chronic conditions since the age of 18 gave me a start on the path to finding ways of not beating myself up both mentally and emotionally. Then my hair journeys, both natural and going gray, showed me self-acceptance. I learned how to be gentle with myself when deeper issues arose from going against the societal grain of beauty standards that come along with going gray at an early age. I learned to accept myself and became more authentically me.

The greatest teacher came 5 years ago when my son was born. He is my on the job training in patience, acceptance, compassion and love. He shows me that I have it in me and I just need to apply it to myself.

Here are three ways you can practice self-compassion right now and into the New Year:

Allow space for how you feel and validate your experience.
Forgive yourself often throughout the day when you have a setback.
Commit to ONE loving thought like “I am doing the best I can and that is ENOUGH.”

These simple actions done conscientiously and intentionally can cause huge shifts in your mindset, hence your quality of life.

Remember the best motivator for change is love and compassion.

Have a Compassionate and Wonderful New Year!

Nina

Check out this video for more tips on self-compassion and my blog to find out more tips to transition to gray compassionately:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mmTO-284Zv4

Follow Nina on Instagram: @naturally_graysful

Check out her great tutorials on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/NaturallyGraysful/featured

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I get a lot of messages from women just starting their gray journey. Some are cruising through it. Others are wrestling with it daily, trying hard to like what they see in the mirror. And I get it.
That transition phase? It’s no joke. Watching that line of demarcation creep in can mess with your confidence. I remember seeing new gray growth and thinking I looked dusty until I ran back for a color touch-up. The shift happened when I stopped dyeing and fully accepted that there would be an in-between season. No shortcuts. No pretending.
Here’s what I wish someone had told me before I went gray:
1. You have to be all in. No half-stepping. Yes, it might look rough at times. That’s the truth. Get creative and keep moving forward anyway.
2. Scarves, hats, braids, wigs—use them. They’re not cheating, they’re tools.
3. Not everyone will support you. Some people project their own fears. Stay anchored in your decision and keep it pushing.
4. When you approve of yourself, the world follows your lead. Confidence teaches people how to treat you.
5. This is the season of releasing the need for outside approval. Quietly, gracefully, and without apology.
We’ve spent decades worrying about what everyone else thinks. This chapter is about caring what you think—and choosing yourself first.
If you’ve got tips for women going gray, drop them in the comments. We learn faster when we do this together.
 #GrayHairJourney #ProAgingMovement #EmbraceTheGray #silversisters
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I get a lot of messages from women just starting their gray journey. Some are cruising through it. Others are wrestling with it daily, trying hard to like what they see in the mirror. And I get it.
That transition phase? It’s no joke. Watching that line of demarcation creep in can mess with your confidence. I remember seeing new gray growth and thinking I looked dusty until I ran back for a color touch-up. The shift happened when I stopped dyeing and fully accepted that there would be an in-between season. No shortcuts. No pretending.
Here’s what I wish someone had told me before I went gray:
1. You have to be all in. No half-stepping. Yes, it might look rough at times. That’s the truth. Get creative and keep moving forward anyway.
2. Scarves, hats, braids, wigs—use them. They’re not cheating, they’re tools.
3. Not everyone will support you. Some people project their own fears. Stay anchored in your decision and keep it pushing.
4. When you approve of yourself, the world follows your lead. Confidence teaches people how to treat you.
5. This is the season of releasing the need for outside approval. Quietly, gracefully, and without apology.
We’ve spent decades worrying about what everyone else thinks. This chapter is about caring what you think—and choosing yourself first.
If you’ve got tips for women going gray, drop them in the comments. We learn faster when we do this together.
 #GrayHairJourney #ProAgingMovement #EmbraceTheGray #silversisters
#mondaymotivation

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Sunday Service.
Romans 8:38-39
“For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.“

I don’t have anything to add to this Word.

Have a Blessed week!

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Sunday Service.
Romans 8:38-39
“For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.“

I don’t have anything to add to this Word.

Have a Blessed week!

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The 70s was my favorite era, but a close second was the 80s. Fully entrenched in my design career, traveling to Asia to work with various factories, all with big 1980s hair. These photos were taken in Taiwan and the Philippines. While traveling to the Philippines, I got to meet my mother’s side of the family for the first time. That was exciting!!! In the first photo, I was celebrating my 30th birthday in Taiwan. Great memories.

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The 70s was my favorite era, but a close second was the 80s. Fully entrenched in my design career, traveling to Asia to work with various factories, all with big 1980s hair. These photos were taken in Taiwan and the Philippines. While traveling to the Philippines, I got to meet my mother’s side of the family for the first time. That was exciting!!! In the first photo, I was celebrating my 30th birthday in Taiwan. Great memories.

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I’m loving this cute jacket @luxe133az Downtown Prescott. Don’t know if it’s vintage, and it might even be menswear, but I’m good. It’s by G-Style, and it’s a fun little versatile piece, and keeping up with the animal skin trend. I have several ideas how to rock this jacket so stay tuned!

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I’m loving this cute jacket @luxe133az Downtown Prescott. Don’t know if it’s vintage, and it might even be menswear, but I’m good. It’s by G-Style, and it’s a fun little versatile piece, and keeping up with the animal skin trend. I have several ideas how to rock this jacket so stay tuned!

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It’s not Throwback Thursday or Tuesday—I just wanted to re-introduce myself to any new followers.
My name is Adelina. I was born and raised in good old Brooklyn, New York, and those roots are still firmly planted. I am Black and Filipina, and grew up in the housing projects, fell in love with art, and studied fashion design. New York City shaped me. I had a rewarding career in fashion, traveled the world, loved deeply, and lost deeply.
I’m the proud mother of two amazing sons, a wonderful daughter-in-law, and two beautiful grandchildren. Through all of life’s storms—and there have been many—my faith and my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, are what keep me grounded and centered.
Toward the end of 2018, I made the decision to stop dyeing my hair and embrace my silver crown. That single choice changed the trajectory of my life. I found the Silver Sister community—and they found me. It opened the door to an entirely new chapter here on social media, where I share my life and build meaningful brand partnerships along the way. Being seen and valued by brands for exactly who you are and where you are in life is truly a blessing. It really is a beautiful time to be alive.
I also met an amazing man online in 2017, and we married in 2022, and we live in Arizona—proof that love is absolutely possible after 50. I’m grateful to inspire mature women who are still open to love, joy, and new beginnings.
That’s me in a nutshell. I’m here to inspire, to share my faith, and to do it all while staying fly.
So this is me, then-bright eyed at one year old, and now-bright haired at 68, and all aglow…

Zoom in if you’d like. No Fillers. No Filters. Just me-> some lines, some creases- aging like fine wine. This is 68 ‘bout to be 69.

If there’s anything you’d like me to post about or share, let me know in the comments below.

And thank you—to all of my followers, new and longtime. Some of you have been rocking with me since the early days around the pandemic. I don’t always see everyone’s posts anymore, so feel free to drop a hello below. 🤍

This post composition was inspired by the birthday post of the beautiful @alanasparrow

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Sunday Service.
Happy February Y’all! We were just saying Happy New Year 😲!!

One of my favorite verses to meditate on:
Psalm 91: “1.He who dwells in the secret place of the Most High Shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty. 2. I will say of the Lord, “He is my refuge and my fortress; My God, in Him I will I will trust.”

Are you dwelling on the cares of this crazy world? It’s enough to make you lose your mind. But there’s a place you can go to to find peace and rest.
No meds needed.

Just a reminder as we head out to church today. I think Rocky wants to come and worship with us!! 😂😂🐾Have a blessed week y’all!

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Sunday Service.
Happy February Y’all! We were just saying Happy New Year 😲!!

One of my favorite verses to meditate on:
Psalm 91: “1.He who dwells in the secret place of the Most High Shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty. 2. I will say of the Lord, “He is my refuge and my fortress; My God, in Him I will I will trust.”

Are you dwelling on the cares of this crazy world? It’s enough to make you lose your mind. But there’s a place you can go to to find peace and rest.
No meds needed.

Just a reminder as we head out to church today. I think Rocky wants to come and worship with us!! 😂😂🐾Have a blessed week y’all!

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Most people don’t know that it gets cold here in Arizona. Well, northern Arizona that is. I’m in Prescott Valley, which is halfway from Phoenix to Flagstaff and if you know about Flagstaff, you know they get cold and snowy weather up there, so we’re somewhere in the middle. Luckily this winter has been pretty mild and this week will be in the mid 60s so I’ll take it.
This is my vintage 70s faux fur and leather coat that I don’t wanna part with. Perfect for the chilly mornings.
OK fam have a wonderful weekend!
Are you still snowed in?

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Most people don’t know that it gets cold here in Arizona. Well, northern Arizona that is. I’m in Prescott Valley, which is halfway from Phoenix to Flagstaff and if you know about Flagstaff, you know they get cold and snowy weather up there, so we’re somewhere in the middle. Luckily this winter has been pretty mild and this week will be in the mid 60s so I’ll take it.
This is my vintage 70s faux fur and leather coat that I don’t wanna part with. Perfect for the chilly mornings.
OK fam have a wonderful weekend!
Are you still snowed in?

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Sunday Service.
Sometimes we have to remind ourselves of these verses: Philippians 4:6-7
It’s easy to look around and get stressed out. Shoot, even social media can stress us out, whether we’re consuming and doom scrolling, or keeping up with content creation. Everything is moving fast and what’s new today is literally old news tomorrow, so the pressure to keep up is reel.😆 Hanging on to this verse is priceless, so we don’t have to hang onto stress.
And we can still be Fly y’all!
Did you need this reminder? Say Amen!!
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Sunday Service.
Sometimes we have to remind ourselves of these verses: Philippians 4:6-7
It’s easy to look around and get stressed out. Shoot, even social media can stress us out, whether we’re consuming and doom scrolling, or keeping up with content creation. Everything is moving fast and what’s new today is literally old news tomorrow, so the pressure to keep up is reel.😆 Hanging on to this verse is priceless, so we don’t have to hang onto stress.
And we can still be Fly y’all!
Did you need this reminder? Say Amen!!
Sweater poncho @tjmaxx
Boots @charlesdavidshoes

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All done!
Sometimes changing the decor, or rearranging things is all the refreshing you need to have a new outlook on life!
Comment Kitchen below if you love these appliances.
This kitchen refresh makes it feel like we’re in a new home! We’re loving the colors and the vibe, and I’m loving cooking in my new kitchen!
Let me know your thoughts in the comments below. Are you doing anything to refresh any rooms in your house? Powder room is next!
Cheers!🥂

The Link is also in my Bio

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All done!
Sometimes changing the decor, or rearranging things is all the refreshing you need to have a new outlook on life!
Comment Kitchen below if you love these appliances.
This kitchen refresh makes it feel like we’re in a new home! We’re loving the colors and the vibe, and I’m loving cooking in my new kitchen!
Let me know your thoughts in the comments below. Are you doing anything to refresh any rooms in your house? Powder room is next!
Cheers!🥂

The Link is also in my Bio

#kitchenremodel#decoratingideas #kitchendesign #homedesigninspo

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