SELF CARE is SELF LOVE

by Adelina | Dec 30, 2020 | 0 comments

Many Silver Sisters in the community consider Nina @naturally_graysful the Silver Community’s Self Care Ambassador. Her thought provoking posts and videos prompt us to take a look at how we, as women are often hard on ourselves, even though we spend much of our lives nurturing and caring for others. Here Nina helps us put it into perspective and shares a few helpful tips with us:

SELF CARE is SELF LOVE

Simple ways to allow yourself grace and compassion

Do you want to know the one practice that will help you in this season of change? Then keep reading.

Jack Kornfield said it well when he said: “If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.” There are many resources out there teaching self-improvement, how to be more positive, and emotionally intelligent and while all of these things are helpful, what I found missing was self-compassion during struggles and setbacks.

My life experiences and challenges led me to this practice of self-compassion which I feel is an act of self-love. What I love about self-compassion is that it doesn’t require circumstances or people to change. It just requires us to be gentle with ourselves when dealing with change or struggles.

Dealing with chronic conditions since the age of 18 gave me a start on the path to finding ways of not beating myself up both mentally and emotionally. Then my hair journeys, both natural and going gray, showed me self-acceptance. I learned how to be gentle with myself when deeper issues arose from going against the societal grain of beauty standards that come along with going gray at an early age. I learned to accept myself and became more authentically me.

The greatest teacher came 5 years ago when my son was born. He is my on the job training in patience, acceptance, compassion and love. He shows me that I have it in me and I just need to apply it to myself.

Here are three ways you can practice self-compassion right now and into the New Year:

Allow space for how you feel and validate your experience.
Forgive yourself often throughout the day when you have a setback.
Commit to ONE loving thought like “I am doing the best I can and that is ENOUGH.”

These simple actions done conscientiously and intentionally can cause huge shifts in your mindset, hence your quality of life.

Remember the best motivator for change is love and compassion.

Have a Compassionate and Wonderful New Year!

Nina

Check out this video for more tips on self-compassion and my blog to find out more tips to transition to gray compassionately:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mmTO-284Zv4

Follow Nina on Instagram: @naturally_graysful

Check out her great tutorials on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/NaturallyGraysful/featured

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Weren’t the 90s like 10 years ago?
Nope.
It was like thirty-something years ago!
Swipe left for more…then and now.
Miss Janet was in her prime, hit after hit…
How did that happen?#tbt

Looking at these photos, I realize how much time we actually spend with our babies—and how fast it all goes by. Now I finally understand why my mother used to say she wished I would stay little. 😂

Kris was such a good, quiet, content baby. He hardly cried and even back then you could see that independent streak in him.
Now he’s 33 Big years old!😲
(Swipe to last pic to see him now.)

Thanks for taking a little trip down memory lane with me. These old baby photos have been sitting in a box in my closet for years, so honestly… this might be the only way they’ll ever see the light of day! 😄

I’m grateful I get to dust them off and share these sweet little moments with you. 💛

Love you Kris!❤️❤️

#throwbackthursday#brooklynbornandraised#thenandnow#1990s

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Weren’t the 90s like 10 years ago?
Nope.
It was like thirty-something years ago!
Swipe left for more…then and now.
Miss Janet was in her prime, hit after hit…
How did that happen?#tbt

Looking at these photos, I realize how much time we actually spend with our babies—and how fast it all goes by. Now I finally understand why my mother used to say she wished I would stay little. 😂

Kris was such a good, quiet, content baby. He hardly cried and even back then you could see that independent streak in him.
Now he’s 33 Big years old!😲
(Swipe to last pic to see him now.)

Thanks for taking a little trip down memory lane with me. These old baby photos have been sitting in a box in my closet for years, so honestly… this might be the only way they’ll ever see the light of day! 😄

I’m grateful I get to dust them off and share these sweet little moments with you. 💛

Love you Kris!❤️❤️

#throwbackthursday#brooklynbornandraised#thenandnow#1990s

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At first, we laughed.
“Did you take out the trash?”�“I don’t have any cash!”
Cute… until it wasn’t.

Little miscommunications have a way of piling up. What starts as funny can slowly turn into frustration. Repeating yourself. Missing details. Feeling disconnected in your own home.
The truth? Hearing loss as we age is more common than people talk about — and pretending it’s “no big deal” doesn’t make it go away.

On this #WorldHearingDay, we’re sharing something personal.
Dave decided to try the Ceretone Core One Pro — an over-the-counter hearing device designed for adults with mild to moderate hearing loss. No complicated setup. Discreet design and they sit in the ear, so his glasses fit comfortably.. Four hearing modes for different environments. And a battery that keeps up with real life
But here’s what mattered most to us:
We stopped missing each other.
Conversations feel easy again. The TV isn’t blasting. Nature sounds like nature. And I’m not repeating myself five times a day (which, let’s be honest, was not cute).
Hearing support didn’t just change what he hears.�It changed how we connect.
This is our personal experience and is not intended as medical advice — just a reminder that clarity matters. And asking for support isn’t weakness. It’s wisdom.
Because when you stop missing words…you stop missing moments.
*This our personal experience and is not intended as medical advice.

Click the Link in my bio and get $90 off for a limited time.

#SponsoredByCeretone
#WorldHearingDay #CoreOnePro #HearingHealth HearLifeAgain

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At first, we laughed.
“Did you take out the trash?”�“I don’t have any cash!”
Cute… until it wasn’t.

Little miscommunications have a way of piling up. What starts as funny can slowly turn into frustration. Repeating yourself. Missing details. Feeling disconnected in your own home.
The truth? Hearing loss as we age is more common than people talk about — and pretending it’s “no big deal” doesn’t make it go away.

On this #WorldHearingDay, we’re sharing something personal.
Dave decided to try the Ceretone Core One Pro — an over-the-counter hearing device designed for adults with mild to moderate hearing loss. No complicated setup. Discreet design and they sit in the ear, so his glasses fit comfortably.. Four hearing modes for different environments. And a battery that keeps up with real life
But here’s what mattered most to us:
We stopped missing each other.
Conversations feel easy again. The TV isn’t blasting. Nature sounds like nature. And I’m not repeating myself five times a day (which, let’s be honest, was not cute).
Hearing support didn’t just change what he hears.�It changed how we connect.
This is our personal experience and is not intended as medical advice — just a reminder that clarity matters. And asking for support isn’t weakness. It’s wisdom.
Because when you stop missing words…you stop missing moments.
*This our personal experience and is not intended as medical advice.

Click the Link in my bio and get $90 off for a limited time.

#SponsoredByCeretone
#WorldHearingDay #CoreOnePro #HearingHealth HearLifeAgain

Sunday Service
Psalms 19:1 The heavens declare the glory of God; and the firmament sheweth his handywork.

Psalm 14:1 The fool has said in his heart,“ There is no God.”

The majesty of God’s creation speaks for itself.
• Order implies intelligence.
* Law implies a law-giver.
* Design implies a designer.
You don’t walk into a cathedral and assume a tornado assembled it.
Earth rotates at roughly 1,000 miles per hour at the equator.
And yet… you don’t feel it.

Gravity is silent. Invisible. Relentless.
It holds:
* You to the ground
* The oceans in their basins
* The atmosphere wrapped around Earth
* The Moon in orbit
* The planets circling the Sun
*
Mountains aren’t just pretty backdrops for Instagram.
They:
* Regulate climate patterns
* Drive rainfall distribution
* Anchor tectonic balance

Just some things to ponder if you think this earth was created by some Big Bang. I’m sorry but a big bang can’t even wash and put away the dishes.

#GodsCreation
#SedonaArizona
#FaithAndNature
#RedRockBeauty
#BlessedBeyondMeasure

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Sunday Service
Psalms 19:1 The heavens declare the glory of God; and the firmament sheweth his handywork.

Psalm 14:1 The fool has said in his heart,“ There is no God.”

The majesty of God’s creation speaks for itself.
• Order implies intelligence.
* Law implies a law-giver.
* Design implies a designer.
You don’t walk into a cathedral and assume a tornado assembled it.
Earth rotates at roughly 1,000 miles per hour at the equator.
And yet… you don’t feel it.

Gravity is silent. Invisible. Relentless.
It holds:
* You to the ground
* The oceans in their basins
* The atmosphere wrapped around Earth
* The Moon in orbit
* The planets circling the Sun
*
Mountains aren’t just pretty backdrops for Instagram.
They:
* Regulate climate patterns
* Drive rainfall distribution
* Anchor tectonic balance

Just some things to ponder if you think this earth was created by some Big Bang. I’m sorry but a big bang can’t even wash and put away the dishes.

#GodsCreation
#SedonaArizona
#FaithAndNature
#RedRockBeauty
#BlessedBeyondMeasure

Throwback Thursday…
High School graduation in 1975 from the HS of Art and Design in NYC, a badge that I wear proudly. Students from all walks of life, all nationalities, all income levels, and all in pursuit of the love of art. ALL getting along!!💪🏽
These memories will remain with me forever. I have so many photos- I am the throwback Queen!
PS: it looks like we all had great skin back then! No filters!!!😂
What are your best high school memories and in what city did you graduate?
#brooklyngirl#growingupinnyc #highschoolmemories #1970 #tbt

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Throwback Thursday…
High School graduation in 1975 from the HS of Art and Design in NYC, a badge that I wear proudly. Students from all walks of life, all nationalities, all income levels, and all in pursuit of the love of art. ALL getting along!!💪🏽
These memories will remain with me forever. I have so many photos- I am the throwback Queen!
PS: it looks like we all had great skin back then! No filters!!!😂
What are your best high school memories and in what city did you graduate?
#brooklyngirl#growingupinnyc #highschoolmemories #1970 #tbt

This body has changed with time — softer curves, silver strands, stories etched in every line.
And through every shift, I’ve never stopped claiming what makes me feel alive, desired, fully woman.
Sexy isn’t a number on a birthday card; it’s the quiet knowing that I’m still here, still radiant, still vibrant, still worthy of feeling beautiful in my skin.
It’s not about chasing youth — it’s about embracing the woman I’ve always been, and the woman I’ve become.
If you’re reading this and wondering if it’s still possible… yes, beautiful. It absolutely is.
Let’s keep owning our glow, one graceful chapter at a time. 💫
Who’s over 60 and feeling that quiet fire today? Share below — I’m cheering you on.
#thisis68#ProAging #sexyover50 #thisisfly #FlyGrannyBk”

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This body has changed with time — softer curves, silver strands, stories etched in every line.
And through every shift, I’ve never stopped claiming what makes me feel alive, desired, fully woman.
Sexy isn’t a number on a birthday card; it’s the quiet knowing that I’m still here, still radiant, still vibrant, still worthy of feeling beautiful in my skin.
It’s not about chasing youth — it’s about embracing the woman I’ve always been, and the woman I’ve become.
If you’re reading this and wondering if it’s still possible… yes, beautiful. It absolutely is.
Let’s keep owning our glow, one graceful chapter at a time. 💫
Who’s over 60 and feeling that quiet fire today? Share below — I’m cheering you on.
#thisis68#ProAging #sexyover50 #thisisfly #FlyGrannyBk”

pro aging, sexy over 60, aging gracefully, women over 60, mature beauty, positive aging, silver sisters, ageless confidence, embrace your age, timeless beauty, midlife glow, confidence over 60, own your glow, graceful aging, women over 50, bold at any age, owning my sexy, going gray gracefully

I Thrifted this neon green dress, and I can’t tell whether it’s vintage or not. The fabric feels like those slinky knits from the 1990s early 2000s. Either way I’m not gonna keep it. It does not flatter my figure. IYKYK IF. It makes me look shorter, so I covered it with a cardigan and some knee-high boots to make it work.
If you’re interested in this dress, send me a DM. It’s it says a size Large.
#styleover60 #transformationtuesday#neongreen#fashionfauxpas

Cardigan @tjmaxx
Boots @charlesdavidshoes
Bag Valentino Bags

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I Thrifted this neon green dress, and I can’t tell whether it’s vintage or not. The fabric feels like those slinky knits from the 1990s early 2000s. Either way I’m not gonna keep it. It does not flatter my figure. IYKYK IF. It makes me look shorter, so I covered it with a cardigan and some knee-high boots to make it work.
If you’re interested in this dress, send me a DM. It’s it says a size Large.
#styleover60 #transformationtuesday#neongreen#fashionfauxpas

Cardigan @tjmaxx
Boots @charlesdavidshoes
Bag Valentino Bags

Reflecting back on my faith walk, I realize that my early introduction to the man named Jesus Christ and his life had a profound impact on me. I attended St. Agnes Parochial School, and these are slides of my first Holy Communion. I was around 7 years old. I remember Catechism class, and the amazing grandeur of mass at St. Agnes Church in Brooklyn. Those early years formed my reverence for all things spiritual. I’m glad my parents sacrificed and sent me to parochial school.

Although I am no longer catholic, this and my praying mother set the foundation for my faith walk today. Thank you mom, I can still feel your prayers! 🥲🙏🏽❤️

Because of the impact it had on me, I also sent my boys to catholic school. I pray it continues to impact their spiritual life as well.

You can see the backdrop of the Gowanus Housing projects where I grew up. The last slide is me with my mother’s best friend, Miss Amparo.

Do you have a childhood faith memory?
Please share below.

#throwback#vintagephoto #catholicschool #schooldays #brooklyngirl

Catholic school upbringing, growing up in Brooklyn, faith inspiration, throwback photos, vintage photos, sepia tone photos, growing up in the 1960s

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Reflecting back on my faith walk, I realize that my early introduction to the man named Jesus Christ and his life had a profound impact on me. I attended St. Agnes Parochial School, and these are slides of my first Holy Communion. I was around 7 years old. I remember Catechism class, and the amazing grandeur of mass at St. Agnes Church in Brooklyn. Those early years formed my reverence for all things spiritual. I’m glad my parents sacrificed and sent me to parochial school.

Although I am no longer catholic, this and my praying mother set the foundation for my faith walk today. Thank you mom, I can still feel your prayers! 🥲🙏🏽❤️

Because of the impact it had on me, I also sent my boys to catholic school. I pray it continues to impact their spiritual life as well.

You can see the backdrop of the Gowanus Housing projects where I grew up. The last slide is me with my mother’s best friend, Miss Amparo.

Do you have a childhood faith memory?
Please share below.

#throwback#vintagephoto #catholicschool #schooldays #brooklyngirl

Catholic school upbringing, growing up in Brooklyn, faith inspiration, throwback photos, vintage photos, sepia tone photos, growing up in the 1960s

Sunday Service.
A little late, but this is another one of my favorite verses. I’ve been at rock bottom a time or two in this ole life. We all have, haven’t we?
If not for God, and His word keeping me afloat during those times, I don’t know where I’d be. We can’t trust in or count on man, can we?
But God…🙏🏽

“But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus.”
Philippians 4:19

Can I get an Amen? Have a blessed week and stay warm Fam.❤️

#blessednotstressed#faith#trustingod

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Sunday Service.
A little late, but this is another one of my favorite verses. I’ve been at rock bottom a time or two in this ole life. We all have, haven’t we?
If not for God, and His word keeping me afloat during those times, I don’t know where I’d be. We can’t trust in or count on man, can we?
But God…🙏🏽

“But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus.”
Philippians 4:19

Can I get an Amen? Have a blessed week and stay warm Fam.❤️

#blessednotstressed#faith#trustingod

Bible verses to remember, positive thoughts, Bible verse, Word of God, Scripture inspiration, Living Word, Faith walk, Sunday best, Faith and fashion, Gospel truth, God speaks, Faith over 60, Aging with Faith, Seasoned Faith, Silver and satisfied, Grace through the years, Faith-filled life, Wisdom with Grace, scripture reflection.

Time has refined me, not reduced me — and every year has brought more clarity, courage, and freedom to live life fully on my own terms.

I finally understand that confidence isn’t about looking young… it’s about loving the woman who made it THIS far. And let me tell you — she’s fearless, she’s curious, and she’s come a long way.

If you’re waiting for permission to begin again, here you go: wear the outfit, book the trip, start the thing, say YES to yourself.

Because growing older isn’t the loss of youth — it’s the privilege of freedom.

After all… ThisIs68 ✨

No fillers. No filters.

#AgingOutLoud #Over60AndFabulous #ProAging #GrayHairDontCare #WomenWhoInspire

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Which slide resonates most with you?

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Time has refined me, not reduced me — and every year has brought more clarity, courage, and freedom to live life fully on my own terms.

I finally understand that confidence isn’t about looking young… it’s about loving the woman who made it THIS far. And let me tell you — she’s fearless, she’s curious, and she’s come a long way.

If you’re waiting for permission to begin again, here you go: wear the outfit, book the trip, start the thing, say YES to yourself.

Because growing older isn’t the loss of youth — it’s the privilege of freedom.

After all… ThisIs68 ✨

No fillers. No filters.

#AgingOutLoud #Over60AndFabulous #ProAging #GrayHairDontCare #WomenWhoInspire

positive aging, women over 60 inspiration, aging with confidence, silver hair lifestyle, vibrant aging, reinvention after 60, confidence at any age, freedom in aging, modern grandmother, stylish over 60, aging gracefully and boldly, empowered women over 60

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