SELF CARE is SELF LOVE

by Adelina | Dec 30, 2020 | 0 comments

Many Silver Sisters in the community consider Nina @naturally_graysful the Silver Community’s Self Care Ambassador. Her thought provoking posts and videos prompt us to take a look at how we, as women are often hard on ourselves, even though we spend much of our lives nurturing and caring for others. Here Nina helps us put it into perspective and shares a few helpful tips with us:

SELF CARE is SELF LOVE

Simple ways to allow yourself grace and compassion

Do you want to know the one practice that will help you in this season of change? Then keep reading.

Jack Kornfield said it well when he said: “If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.” There are many resources out there teaching self-improvement, how to be more positive, and emotionally intelligent and while all of these things are helpful, what I found missing was self-compassion during struggles and setbacks.

My life experiences and challenges led me to this practice of self-compassion which I feel is an act of self-love. What I love about self-compassion is that it doesn’t require circumstances or people to change. It just requires us to be gentle with ourselves when dealing with change or struggles.

Dealing with chronic conditions since the age of 18 gave me a start on the path to finding ways of not beating myself up both mentally and emotionally. Then my hair journeys, both natural and going gray, showed me self-acceptance. I learned how to be gentle with myself when deeper issues arose from going against the societal grain of beauty standards that come along with going gray at an early age. I learned to accept myself and became more authentically me.

The greatest teacher came 5 years ago when my son was born. He is my on the job training in patience, acceptance, compassion and love. He shows me that I have it in me and I just need to apply it to myself.

Here are three ways you can practice self-compassion right now and into the New Year:

Allow space for how you feel and validate your experience.
Forgive yourself often throughout the day when you have a setback.
Commit to ONE loving thought like “I am doing the best I can and that is ENOUGH.”

These simple actions done conscientiously and intentionally can cause huge shifts in your mindset, hence your quality of life.

Remember the best motivator for change is love and compassion.

Have a Compassionate and Wonderful New Year!

Nina

Check out this video for more tips on self-compassion and my blog to find out more tips to transition to gray compassionately:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mmTO-284Zv4

Follow Nina on Instagram: @naturally_graysful

Check out her great tutorials on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/NaturallyGraysful/featured

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In case you need some ideas on what to pack for your upcoming tropical vacation, look no further. 🌴☀️

#thisis69 and I still wear shorts and tube tops. At this age, I wear whatever I want and whatever I feel comfortable in. Confidence has no age limit, and neither does personal style.

For my birthday, I wore the flowy 2-piece print set, and because it was so hot I kept my style cool, comfy, and effortless. This silver hair journey has taught me that age-positive style is all about dressing for joy, freedom, and feeling good in your own skin.

Fashion over 60, over 65, and yes — over 69 — can still be bold, fun, stylish, and youthful. Don’t let anyone tell you there’s an expiration date on confidence, crop tops, or tropical vacation outfits. Wear the shorts. Wear the bright prints. Wear what makes you feel alive. ✨

What I packed:
3 tube tops
2 woven tops
3 pr shorts
3 Sundresses
3 pr wide leg pants
2 Caftans
1 pr sneakers
1 black sandal
1pr fisherman sandals
1 pr flip flops
1 hoodie
1 white sweater

Comment “Ideas” and I’ll send a link to similar items in my Amazon shop.

Printed 2 pc set from @tjmaxx

Reversible wrap skirt from @darngoodyarn

Thanks for stopping by! Share this with someone you know that’s going on a tropical vacation and needs ideas.

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In case you need some ideas on what to pack for your upcoming tropical vacation, look no further. 🌴☀️

#thisis69 and I still wear shorts and tube tops. At this age, I wear whatever I want and whatever I feel comfortable in. Confidence has no age limit, and neither does personal style.

For my birthday, I wore the flowy 2-piece print set, and because it was so hot I kept my style cool, comfy, and effortless. This silver hair journey has taught me that age-positive style is all about dressing for joy, freedom, and feeling good in your own skin.

Fashion over 60, over 65, and yes — over 69 — can still be bold, fun, stylish, and youthful. Don’t let anyone tell you there’s an expiration date on confidence, crop tops, or tropical vacation outfits. Wear the shorts. Wear the bright prints. Wear what makes you feel alive. ✨

What I packed:
3 tube tops
2 woven tops
3 pr shorts
3 Sundresses
3 pr wide leg pants
2 Caftans
1 pr sneakers
1 black sandal
1pr fisherman sandals
1 pr flip flops
1 hoodie
1 white sweater

Comment “Ideas” and I’ll send a link to similar items in my Amazon shop.

Printed 2 pc set from @tjmaxx

Reversible wrap skirt from @darngoodyarn

Thanks for stopping by! Share this with someone you know that’s going on a tropical vacation and needs ideas.

Sunday Service.
God’s handiwork was evident in Bali, and it’s all around us everywhere if we just take a moment to look up wherever we are.

I’m thankful for all blessings, and for being able to travel and see different places. What are you thankful for?
Share this with someone who needs a reminder.

#beautifulearth #bali#godsgoodness#travelbug

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Sunday Service.
God’s handiwork was evident in Bali, and it’s all around us everywhere if we just take a moment to look up wherever we are.

I’m thankful for all blessings, and for being able to travel and see different places. What are you thankful for?
Share this with someone who needs a reminder.

#beautifulearth #bali#godsgoodness#travelbug

When you’re younger, you don’t usually worry about things like ingrown toenails. But as you get older you’re walking around fine, and then BAM, they start hurting. And somehow, when your feet hurt, your whole body hurts.
Sure, when you go to get a regular pedicure, they can address it temporarily, but they always come back. But now it was affecting everything. My toes were hurting even while wearing sneakers, and so I had to take matters into my own hands or my own feet I should say- as it were.
The procedure was pretty painless and the only thing I felt was the pinch of the needles on either side of my big toe to numb them. It was over before I knew it. The experience was worse in my mind than IRL.
So what was the procedure you ask? The Dr. removed the ingrown edge of the nail and, destroyed the nail root so it won’t grow back. I’m OK with that.

We older folks are doing OK out here in these IG streets, but sometimes getting older sucks!!Not gonna lie😲🤣
But we keep it moving, and we Stay Fly!!!

If you need to get it done, just go get it done!

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When you’re younger, you don’t usually worry about things like ingrown toenails. But as you get older you’re walking around fine, and then BAM, they start hurting. And somehow, when your feet hurt, your whole body hurts.
Sure, when you go to get a regular pedicure, they can address it temporarily, but they always come back. But now it was affecting everything. My toes were hurting even while wearing sneakers, and so I had to take matters into my own hands or my own feet I should say- as it were.
The procedure was pretty painless and the only thing I felt was the pinch of the needles on either side of my big toe to numb them. It was over before I knew it. The experience was worse in my mind than IRL.
So what was the procedure you ask? The Dr. removed the ingrown edge of the nail and, destroyed the nail root so it won’t grow back. I’m OK with that.

We older folks are doing OK out here in these IG streets, but sometimes getting older sucks!!Not gonna lie😲🤣
But we keep it moving, and we Stay Fly!!!

If you need to get it done, just go get it done!

Ahhhh the 70s!
It was a time when we wore our best outfit to class, to work, to dinner, to nowhere special at all. Platforms clicking on city sidewalks, palazzos catching the breeze, and enough confidence to think nothing of changing trains in heels before a full workday. We didn’t call it “aesthetic.” We just got dressed and lived our lives. I can hear the soundtrack of 70s music in my head right now.

Back then in Brooklyn, everybody had somewhere to be and wanted to look good getting there. Running for the train, in thise crazy heels, mind you…music blasting from somebody’s window, corner stores, summer block heat, long days in Manhattan, and somehow still making it home looking fly. New York in the 70s had grit, style, hustle, attitude—and if you came up in that era, you know there was nothing soft about it. We earned every bit of our swagger.

Nik Niks. Palazzo Pants. Platform shoes.
Who remembers? Let me know your favorite styles you wore in the 70s.
 #ThrowbackStyle #BoomerStyle #VintageFashion #70sStyle #ᴛʙᴛ

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Ahhhh the 70s!
It was a time when we wore our best outfit to class, to work, to dinner, to nowhere special at all. Platforms clicking on city sidewalks, palazzos catching the breeze, and enough confidence to think nothing of changing trains in heels before a full workday. We didn’t call it “aesthetic.” We just got dressed and lived our lives. I can hear the soundtrack of 70s music in my head right now.

Back then in Brooklyn, everybody had somewhere to be and wanted to look good getting there. Running for the train, in thise crazy heels, mind you…music blasting from somebody’s window, corner stores, summer block heat, long days in Manhattan, and somehow still making it home looking fly. New York in the 70s had grit, style, hustle, attitude—and if you came up in that era, you know there was nothing soft about it. We earned every bit of our swagger.

Nik Niks. Palazzo Pants. Platform shoes.
Who remembers? Let me know your favorite styles you wore in the 70s.
 #ThrowbackStyle #BoomerStyle #VintageFashion #70sStyle #ᴛʙᴛ

Some places stay with you long after the suitcase is unpacked. The @omtaraspa at Kappa Senses Ubud was one of those places for me — hidden among lush greenery, soft rain, flowing water, warm oils, quiet rituals, and the kind of stillness that makes the rest of the world go silent for a little while.
I’m already back home in Arizona, back to real life, emails, laundry and deadlines… but this experience deserved its moment on the timeline because true peace is becoming a luxury these days. Bali slowed me down in the most beautiful way.
And honestly? A massage in the middle of the jungle while listening to nature do its thing should be prescribed at least twice a year.

@clarinsofficial
@kappasensesubud

#BaliRetreat #UbudBali #LuxuryWellness #PositiveAging #FlyGrannyBk

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Some places stay with you long after the suitcase is unpacked. The @omtaraspa at Kappa Senses Ubud was one of those places for me — hidden among lush greenery, soft rain, flowing water, warm oils, quiet rituals, and the kind of stillness that makes the rest of the world go silent for a little while.
I’m already back home in Arizona, back to real life, emails, laundry and deadlines… but this experience deserved its moment on the timeline because true peace is becoming a luxury these days. Bali slowed me down in the most beautiful way.
And honestly? A massage in the middle of the jungle while listening to nature do its thing should be prescribed at least twice a year.

@clarinsofficial
@kappasensesubud

#BaliRetreat #UbudBali #LuxuryWellness #PositiveAging #FlyGrannyBk

Just some random pics from 2019. Some of them are in Italy,and in those I was early in my gray hair journey , and I chose gray braids to cover up the early gray hair transition. Other pics are in NY.
Anyhoo, time flies!
#tbt#grayhairjourney#italyvacation #graybraids

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Just some random pics from 2019. Some of them are in Italy,and in those I was early in my gray hair journey , and I chose gray braids to cover up the early gray hair transition. Other pics are in NY.
Anyhoo, time flies!
#tbt#grayhairjourney#italyvacation #graybraids

There’s something about getting older that teaches you the difference between luxury and peace. One costs money. The other costs years.
Years of lessons.�Years of heartbreak.�Years of overextending, overthinking, overgiving.
So yes… these days I’ll gladly sit in beautiful places, wear the white linen, order the good meal, and disappear into serene aqua views without one ounce of guilt.
Because this softness?�It wasn’t handed to me.�I earned every bit of it.
Bali has been good for my spirit.

Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is step away from the noise…
At this age, I no longer vacation to impress people.�I vacation to hear myself think again.

Like this look? Comment “Summer” for the link.

#FlyGrannyBK #ProAging #Over60Style #BaliVacation #AgingWithStyle

Do you need a reset?

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There’s something about getting older that teaches you the difference between luxury and peace. One costs money. The other costs years.
Years of lessons.�Years of heartbreak.�Years of overextending, overthinking, overgiving.
So yes… these days I’ll gladly sit in beautiful places, wear the white linen, order the good meal, and disappear into serene aqua views without one ounce of guilt.
Because this softness?�It wasn’t handed to me.�I earned every bit of it.
Bali has been good for my spirit.

Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is step away from the noise…
At this age, I no longer vacation to impress people.�I vacation to hear myself think again.

Like this look? Comment “Summer” for the link.

#FlyGrannyBK #ProAging #Over60Style #BaliVacation #AgingWithStyle

Do you need a reset?

Happy Mother’s Day All!💐Then and Now…Swipe left.
One of the greatest Blessings of my life is being a mother and seeing my children flourish. Sometimes we wonder how we did as parents, but I’m happy to say that my boys give me my flowers of appreciation while I’m still here🙏🏽💐❤️

I pray this can be said of me from Proverbs 31:
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She looks well to the ways of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
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Her children rise up and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
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“Many women have done excellently,
but you surpass them all.”
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Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain,
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
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Give her of the fruit of her hands,
and let her works praise her in the gates.

And when you can’t physically, be there with them, there’s always AI to the rescue🤗😉

#mothersandsons#mothersday#thenandnow#boystomen

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Happy Mother’s Day All!💐Then and Now…Swipe left.
One of the greatest Blessings of my life is being a mother and seeing my children flourish. Sometimes we wonder how we did as parents, but I’m happy to say that my boys give me my flowers of appreciation while I’m still here🙏🏽💐❤️

I pray this can be said of me from Proverbs 31:
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She looks well to the ways of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28
Her children rise up and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
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“Many women have done excellently,
but you surpass them all.”
30
Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain,
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
31
Give her of the fruit of her hands,
and let her works praise her in the gates.

And when you can’t physically, be there with them, there’s always AI to the rescue🤗😉

#mothersandsons#mothersday#thenandnow#boystomen

From me with big big hair, busy days, and raising my boy in the ‘80s… to watching him become an incredible father himself.

Life moves fast, but some things never change… the love, the bond, and the way your children continue to cheer you on through every season of life.

Justin has always been one of my biggest supporters — from my early mom days to this chapter of traveling, creating, and living life fully. And now seeing 3 generations together? That’s the real blessing. 🙏🏽

Sometimes the greatest flex isn’t fame, money, or followers… it’s looking around and realizing your family still genuinely loves being together.

Three generations strong… and my heart is full.
#TBT

#ThrowbackThursday #3Generations #BoyMom #FamilyLove FlyGrannyBK

family, motherhood, boymom, throwbackthursday, tbt, 80smom, familybond, generations, grandsonlove, proudmom, proudgrandma, familymemories, motherhoodjourney, familyfirst, aginggracefully, over60style, over60influencer, grandmalife, cherishedmoments, familylegacy, blessedlife, lifestylecreator, inspirationalwomen, travelcreator, multigenerational, wocinfluencer

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From me with big big hair, busy days, and raising my boy in the ‘80s… to watching him become an incredible father himself.

Life moves fast, but some things never change… the love, the bond, and the way your children continue to cheer you on through every season of life.

Justin has always been one of my biggest supporters — from my early mom days to this chapter of traveling, creating, and living life fully. And now seeing 3 generations together? That’s the real blessing. 🙏🏽

Sometimes the greatest flex isn’t fame, money, or followers… it’s looking around and realizing your family still genuinely loves being together.

Three generations strong… and my heart is full.
#TBT

#ThrowbackThursday #3Generations #BoyMom #FamilyLove FlyGrannyBK

family, motherhood, boymom, throwbackthursday, tbt, 80smom, familybond, generations, grandsonlove, proudmom, proudgrandma, familymemories, motherhoodjourney, familyfirst, aginggracefully, over60style, over60influencer, grandmalife, cherishedmoments, familylegacy, blessedlife, lifestylecreator, inspirationalwomen, travelcreator, multigenerational, wocinfluencer

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