Dating After 40 with Grace and Grit

by Adelina | Jun 3, 2024 | 0 comments

Love Is Possible Over 40, 50, 60 and Beyond

Real talk… dating can be nerve wracking at any age. And, navigating the dating scene after 40 feels like sailing into uncharted waters. It comes with its own set of insecurities, especially when you’re flaunting a new crown of silver strands. In a world that often equates beauty with youth, it takes a big dose of confidence and a sprinkle of humor to flip the script, showing that gray hair isn’t just a sign of aging—it’s a badge of honor. It tells tales of wisdom, experience, and unabashed self-love.

The Silver Lining: Embracing Gray Hair

Society is finally catching up with the idea that beauty isn’t “one size fits all,” and the range of colors our hair can turn is as natural and as stunning as a sunset. Icons like Andy McDowell and Tia Mowry are not just rocking their grays; they’re leading a movement that redefines attractiveness, showing that silver is sexy!

The Dating Game: First Impressions and Confidence

First impressions in the dating game are crucial, but they should never come at the expense of your authenticity. Dressing for a date when you’re proudly wearing your natural hair color is about balance—highlighting your best features with a touch of personal style that says, “Yes, this is me, and I’m fabulous.”

Fashion and grooming tips? Go for what makes you feel confident and comfortable, be it a classic little black dress or something that speaks to your bohemian spirit. The key is to wear your gray hair like the crown it is—unapologetically and with grace.

Online Dating and Gray Hair: Navigating the Digital Realm

Your online dating profile is your digital introduction to potential matches, and yes, it should absolutely reflect the real you—including your gorgeous gray locks. Choose photos that showcase your natural beauty and the joy that comes with it. When writing your bio, be honest and upfront about who you are. Remember authenticity attracts authenticity.

Engaging in conversations online can be daunting, but truthfully, the person on the other end is looking for connection just as much as you are. Be genuine, be curious, and don’t shy away from sharing your journey to silver—the challenges, the triumphs, and everything in between.

Real-Life : Successes and Challenges

If I am being honest, my transition to gray was a decision that took me a long time to come to terms with. But, I decided that I could always change my mind and go back to coloring if I didn’t like it. In the beginning, I got gray braids and it gave me an idea of what to expect. Once I saw the potential, I was all in!

At the time I began transitioning, I was dating my now husband. I know that deep in my soul, there was some level of nervousness that I grappled with because I didn’t know myself as gray, and I was asking someone to follow along with me on the journey. It was intimidating, but he was a huge support.

Recently, we were talking about his thoughts on walking this journey with me, and he got real candid about his feelings. You can watch our discussion about it HERE!

Conclusion

Ladies, if there’s one thing to take away from this, it’s that your silver strands are not something to feel self conscious about; they represent the most authentic version of you. They tell the world that you’ve lived, loved, and learned, and you’re not afraid to show it. In the dating scene, this confidence and self-acceptance can be your greatest ally. Walk tall and proud because girl, you are gorgeous!

Remember, whether you’re stepping out for a first date or curating your online dating profile, do it with the confidence of someone who knows their worth and isn’t afraid to show it. Your silver hair isn’t just a sign of aging; it’s a symbol of your unique story, and the right person will love you all the more for it.

Ready to join the movement and celebrate every silver strand? Follow me on Instagram @FlyGrannyBk and don’t forget to subscribe to my newsletter at www.flygrannybk.com for more stories, tips, and a community that celebrates authenticity and the beauty of aging gracefully.

Here’s to finding love, laughter, and a whole lot of adventure after 40.

The best is yet to come!

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I don’t play around about hydration—especially at higher altitude here in PV. A hair analysis test reminded me to pay attention to what I’m drinking, so filtering my water through Epic became a non-negotiable. It removes up to 99.99% of the stuff I don’t want in my body.
Healthy living starts inside.
Comment “water” below and  Use FLY15 for 15% off your first order.

Drinking water and minding our business!

#HydrationMatters #EpicWaterFilters #HealthyFromWithin #ProAgingWellness #FlyGrannyBK

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I don’t play around about hydration—especially at higher altitude here in PV. A hair analysis test reminded me to pay attention to what I’m drinking, so filtering my water through Epic became a non-negotiable. It removes up to 99.99% of the stuff I don’t want in my body.
Healthy living starts inside.
Comment “water” below and  Use FLY15 for 15% off your first order.

Drinking water and minding our business!

#HydrationMatters #EpicWaterFilters #HealthyFromWithin #ProAgingWellness #FlyGrannyBK

That’s messed up, I know.
Not throwing these away…18 years ago- I look guhd!😂

Who can relate?

#agelessbeauty
#relatable
#saturdayvibes
#humor#fyp

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That’s messed up, I know.
Not throwing these away…18 years ago- I look guhd!😂

Who can relate?

#agelessbeauty
#relatable
#saturdayvibes
#humor#fyp

Always been a Fashionista Diva. Back in high school—and later at F.I.T. in the late ’70s—I lived for those student fashion shows. We were young, bold, and chasing our creative dreams with nothing but talent, pins, and pure hustle. The ’70s… what a decade. Still one of my favorites, and 1970s styles are forever…
Swipe to see:
1. Wearing a design by my late friend Earl Eppinger
2. Rocking my own Quiana creation 3–5. A mix of fashion shows that shaped my eye
3. High School Fashion Show
4. Lounging on the couch
5. Hallway vibes in the Gowanus Projects
And somewhere in the background, Prince was debuting in ’79—hair laid to the heavens and looking better than mine.The rest, as they say, is history.
What is your favorite thing about the 70s?

#tbt
#backintheday
#thenandnow
#70sfashion #Vintage70s #70sGlam

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Always been a Fashionista Diva. Back in high school—and later at F.I.T. in the late ’70s—I lived for those student fashion shows. We were young, bold, and chasing our creative dreams with nothing but talent, pins, and pure hustle. The ’70s… what a decade. Still one of my favorites, and 1970s styles are forever…
Swipe to see:
1. Wearing a design by my late friend Earl Eppinger
2. Rocking my own Quiana creation 3–5. A mix of fashion shows that shaped my eye
3. High School Fashion Show
4. Lounging on the couch
5. Hallway vibes in the Gowanus Projects
And somewhere in the background, Prince was debuting in ’79—hair laid to the heavens and looking better than mine.The rest, as they say, is history.
What is your favorite thing about the 70s?

#tbt
#backintheday
#thenandnow
#70sfashion #Vintage70s #70sGlam

There must be something in the air. I have been purging my closet for a while.
I can’t count how many bags of clothing and stuff we donated this year alone.
So when @dianebrittsmith posted about purging, it resonated with me because I’m purging too.
When I was selling vintage clothing, I used to go to estate sales and I would leave them with mixed feelings because although I would leave with all of the spoils and great vintage clothing, it made me very sad that we stood in line to get in and then rummaged over items that were an important part of peoples lives.Their cherished belongings. Their collectibles. Their lives. Reminder to self
- you can’t take it with you.
Anywho-I went to the consignment shop and they took half of the items. What’s left I’ll have to give away. It must go!

Are you in a phase of getting rid of stuff?

#grayhairdontcare
#silversister
#purging

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There must be something in the air. I have been purging my closet for a while.
I can’t count how many bags of clothing and stuff we donated this year alone.
So when @dianebrittsmith posted about purging, it resonated with me because I’m purging too.
When I was selling vintage clothing, I used to go to estate sales and I would leave them with mixed feelings because although I would leave with all of the spoils and great vintage clothing, it made me very sad that we stood in line to get in and then rummaged over items that were an important part of peoples lives.Their cherished belongings. Their collectibles. Their lives. Reminder to self
- you can’t take it with you.
Anywho-I went to the consignment shop and they took half of the items. What’s left I’ll have to give away. It must go!

Are you in a phase of getting rid of stuff?

#grayhairdontcare
#silversister
#purging

Nothing fancy, just getting out while our kitchen is getting a facelift .
Lunch for us is probably dinner time for you folks on the east coast.
We chose @wzasianbistro_pv
our quick go to for a good lunch.
Note to self, this late lunch will probably be dinner too. #notcookingtonight
#silversister
#lunchdate
#enjoylife
#maturecouple
#swirllife
#interraciallove

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Nothing fancy, just getting out while our kitchen is getting a facelift .
Lunch for us is probably dinner time for you folks on the east coast.
We chose @wzasianbistro_pv
our quick go to for a good lunch.
Note to self, this late lunch will probably be dinner too. #notcookingtonight
#silversister
#lunchdate
#enjoylife
#maturecouple
#swirllife
#interraciallove

Ponder this:

“It is never too late to be what you might have been.” — George Eliot

“Finish each day and be done with it… Tomorrow is a new day.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson

Every sunrise gives us another chance to grow, glow, and begin again. Remember, God’s mercies are new every morning! It’s another chance to begin again .
So if yesterday sucked, get some good sleep, and start over .
I’m embracing this season with grace, a little grit, and a whole lot of silver magic. Starting fresh never gets old — and neither do we. ✨

#MondayMotivation
#silvermagic
#SilverHairSiren
#GrayHairDontCare #Over60AndFabulous

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Ponder this:

“It is never too late to be what you might have been.” — George Eliot

“Finish each day and be done with it… Tomorrow is a new day.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson

Every sunrise gives us another chance to grow, glow, and begin again. Remember, God’s mercies are new every morning! It’s another chance to begin again .
So if yesterday sucked, get some good sleep, and start over .
I’m embracing this season with grace, a little grit, and a whole lot of silver magic. Starting fresh never gets old — and neither do we. ✨

#MondayMotivation
#silvermagic
#SilverHairSiren
#GrayHairDontCare #Over60AndFabulous

The wind was tossing everything
today, but not me.
Being rooted in the Word and standing
on Christ the Solid Rock, you don’t get blown off course.
In life, Storms can swirl — but I
stay planted on a firm foundation.

“On Christ the Solid Rock I Stand, all other ground is sinking sand”

Can I get an Amen??

#flygrannybk
#womanoffaith
#sundayservice
#inspiration

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The wind was tossing everything
today, but not me.
Being rooted in the Word and standing
on Christ the Solid Rock, you don’t get blown off course.
In life, Storms can swirl — but I
stay planted on a firm foundation.

“On Christ the Solid Rock I Stand, all other ground is sinking sand”

Can I get an Amen??

#flygrannybk
#womanoffaith
#sundayservice
#inspiration

I wanted to dispel all the negativity around menopause. I mean, the challenges are real, but It sounds so scary, and I’m glad that we have the information that our mothers didn’t have, and we can take action. So to my younger sisters, who are about to enter that phase, never fear; you’ve made it this far!!
I’m not negating the hot flashes, the emotional mood swings, or the changes that many experience. Everything feels different, and everyone is different. For example, many women have terrible hot flashes. Me? I never had them, but I did have emotional mood swings, and that was very real. You might have a phase of losing your libido. You might have a phase of heightened libido. It’s all a crapshoot. The good news is today we have options. The availability of bioidentical hormones and other holistic treatments are very beneficial blessings that our parents didn’t have access to.
I’m not saying it’s a cakewalk, but you have to be proactive. I had terrible gynecologists that just did not help me for about 10 years until I found some good ones. If you’re not happy with your gynecologist, no matter how long you’ve been going to them, advocate for yourself and get a new one.
Now that I’m on the other side, and postmenopausal, I can look back and say these things. It’s just one of the inevitable things. A change of life, as our parents used to say, so take life by the horns and keep it moving.

Oh, I forgot to add - you can wear white without fear!

I am not a doctor or expert so of course check with your physician before using them . This is my personal experience and here are a few supplements that helped me during Peri and Menopause:

Estrotone
Wild Yam Cream
Progesterone Cream

Comment PAUSE below and I’ll send direct links to these supplements.

What stage are you in?

#menopausal
#postmenopausal
#positiveoutlook
#over60
#grownandsexy

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I wanted to dispel all the negativity around menopause. I mean, the challenges are real, but It sounds so scary, and I’m glad that we have the information that our mothers didn’t have, and we can take action. So to my younger sisters, who are about to enter that phase, never fear; you’ve made it this far!!
I’m not negating the hot flashes, the emotional mood swings, or the changes that many experience. Everything feels different, and everyone is different. For example, many women have terrible hot flashes. Me? I never had them, but I did have emotional mood swings, and that was very real. You might have a phase of losing your libido. You might have a phase of heightened libido. It’s all a crapshoot. The good news is today we have options. The availability of bioidentical hormones and other holistic treatments are very beneficial blessings that our parents didn’t have access to.
I’m not saying it’s a cakewalk, but you have to be proactive. I had terrible gynecologists that just did not help me for about 10 years until I found some good ones. If you’re not happy with your gynecologist, no matter how long you’ve been going to them, advocate for yourself and get a new one.
Now that I’m on the other side, and postmenopausal, I can look back and say these things. It’s just one of the inevitable things. A change of life, as our parents used to say, so take life by the horns and keep it moving.

Oh, I forgot to add - you can wear white without fear!

I am not a doctor or expert so of course check with your physician before using them . This is my personal experience and here are a few supplements that helped me during Peri and Menopause:

Estrotone
Wild Yam Cream
Progesterone Cream

Comment PAUSE below and I’ll send direct links to these supplements.

What stage are you in?

#menopausal
#postmenopausal
#positiveoutlook
#over60
#grownandsexy

Episode 3:

When I first whispered the idea of going gray to Dave, I half-expected resistance. My family was already supportive-but this was a fairly new relationship when I decided to make a drastic change-and men are visual creatures. You know how it is — we brace ourselves for opinions before anyone even gives one. But when I told my then-boyfriend, now husband, that I was ready to embrace my grays, he surprised me. Supportive, a little cautious, but he didn’t flinch.
I moved forward anyway. First came the dread extensions. Then, when enough silver pushed through, I added gray braids. That’s when everything clicked — the visual made it real. We both finally saw what my future hair would look like, and he loved it.
If you’re on this journey too, here’s what I learned: once you accept it, the people who love you follow your lead. Confidence is contagious. And yes, having someone like Dave in your corner helps, but the real turning point was me choosing to own it.
Your gray story begins the moment you decide to stop hiding from yourself. The rest falls into place.
Are you on the fence, but afraid of what others might think?
I dare say once you approve of yourself, everyone else will fall in line.
#grayhairjourney
#silversister
#silvercouple
#interracialdating
#embracethegray
#ditchthedye
#proagemovement

There are lots of baby bloomers out there. Are you considering a gray hair journey?

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