Dating After 40 with Grace and Grit

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Love Is Possible Over 40, 50, 60 and Beyond

Real talk… dating can be nerve wracking at any age. And, navigating the dating scene after 40 feels like sailing into uncharted waters. It comes with its own set of insecurities, especially when you’re flaunting a new crown of silver strands. In a world that often equates beauty with youth, it takes a big dose of confidence and a sprinkle of humor to flip the script, showing that gray hair isn’t just a sign of aging—it’s a badge of honor. It tells tales of wisdom, experience, and unabashed self-love. 

The Silver Lining: Embracing Gray Hair

Society is finally catching up with the idea that beauty isn’t “one size fits all,” and the range of colors our hair can turn is as natural and as stunning as a sunset. Icons like Andy McDowell and Tia Mowry are not just rocking their grays; they’re leading a movement that redefines attractiveness, showing that silver is sexy!

The Dating Game: First Impressions and Confidence

First impressions in the dating game are crucial, but they should never come at the expense of your authenticity. Dressing for a date when you’re proudly wearing your natural hair color is about balance—highlighting your best features with a touch of personal style that says, “Yes, this is me, and I’m fabulous.”

Fashion and grooming tips? Go for what makes you feel confident and comfortable, be it a classic little black dress or something that speaks to your bohemian spirit. The key is to wear your gray hair like the crown it is—unapologetically and with grace.

Online Dating and Gray Hair: Navigating the Digital Realm

Your online dating profile is your digital introduction to potential matches, and yes, it should absolutely reflect the real you—including your gorgeous gray locks. Choose photos that showcase your natural beauty and the joy that comes with it. When writing your bio, be honest and upfront about who you are. Remember authenticity attracts authenticity.

Engaging in conversations online can be daunting, but truthfully, the person on the other end is looking for connection just as much as you are. Be genuine, be curious, and don’t shy away from sharing your journey to silver—the challenges, the triumphs, and everything in between.

Real-Life : Successes and Challenges

If I am being honest, my transition to gray was a decision that took me a long time to come to terms with.  But, I decided that I could always change my mind and go back to coloring if I didn’t like it.  In the beginning, I got gray braids and it gave me an idea of what to expect. Once I saw the potential, I was all in! 

At the time I began transitioning, I was dating my now husband. I know that deep in my soul, there was some level of nervousness that I grappled with because I didn’t know myself as gray, and I was asking someone to follow along with me on the journey.  It was intimidating, but he was a huge support. 

Recently, we were talking about his thoughts on walking this journey with me, and he got real candid about his feelings. You can watch our discussion about it HERE!

Conclusion

Ladies, if there’s one thing to take away from this, it’s that your silver strands are not something to feel self conscious about; they represent the most authentic version of you. They tell the world that you’ve lived, loved, and learned, and you’re not afraid to show it. In the dating scene, this confidence and self-acceptance can be your greatest ally. Walk tall and proud because girl,  you are gorgeous!

Remember, whether you’re stepping out for a first date or curating your online dating profile, do it with the confidence of someone who knows their worth and isn’t afraid to show it. Your silver hair isn’t just a sign of aging; it’s a symbol of your unique story, and the right person will love you all the more for it.

Ready to join the movement and celebrate every silver strand? Follow me on Instagram @FlyGrannyBk and don’t forget to subscribe to my newsletter at www.flygrannybk.com for more stories, tips, and a community that celebrates authenticity and the beauty of aging gracefully.

Here’s to finding love, laughter, and a whole lot of adventure after 40. 

The best is yet to come!

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“Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.” —Proverbs 31:30

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Then and now.
Y’all know the 70’s was my decade, and I think I took more photos in the 1970s than any other decade. Each decade represents another phase of life. This was one of self-growth and exploration, not to mention the 70s disco vibe and unforgettable style.
I look back and smile, feeling grateful for Then and Now🙏🏽❤️
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Grateful for all things. That’s all.🙏🏽
What have you been complaining about lately and have you been focusing on what you don’t have rather than being grateful for what you do have? When you look at the rest of the world, we are truly blessed. I’m so glad God saw fit that the path of my life has led me here. I hope to inspire someone today.
It’s easy to get caught up in the fallacy of perfection. Just look here on social media and everyone’s life looks fabulous every single day, but trust me- it’s not, no one is perfect except God.
Just a random post. Have a blessed day y’all!
#wednesdayvibes #humpday#carvideos #grayhairfontcare#blessed

Do you take things and your life for granted?
Are you grateful for the things you have?
Who says getting older has to be boring? I visited Tony Yanito’s Gripstone Climbing Gym recently. He’s a legendary professional rock climber, and at over 60 he’s going strong keeping Prescott,AZ fit with his gym. On this day, there were some climbers in their late 60s and 70s showing their skills and I was impressed!
Gonna put on my climbing gear and do it one day. Tony said I can start with the kids wall!!😲😂 That’s about right!!🧗🏽‍♂️
If you’re in the area, check this place out!!!

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Psyche!! No, it’s not me…

Just a little levity and laughs visiting with my beautiful niece Rasheeda. 

Some folks pay beaucoup bucks for this, and don’t look half as good!!!
Go on with your baddie self Rasheeda!

Like, Share, and Follow her y’all  @rasheedatv 

#babygotback#fyp #therealdeal #nobbl #nycgirl#floridagirl #instadaily #naturalbeauty
It was a bittersweet trip to Florida visiting my big brother Tony, who is bedridden from 
a stroke, and my sister-in-law who is showing signs of dementia, all under the care of my wonderful niece, Rasheeda @rasheeda.io  I got to experience firsthand her life as a caregiver, and I was glad to be 
there as their new home was blessed at the housewarming. In all that she is juggling, she found the time to invite us to a Yankees’s Spring Training Event in Tampa. She is a Fordham U alum, so we got to steal away for a few hours to enjoy the event with her.
I was mostly in the moment, and didn’t get to create much content. Sometimes it’s that way. No regrets.

My niece is so amazing and beautiful. They are so blessed to have her care for them. May the Lord bless her GREATLY for honoring them in this way. We should all be so lucky! 

Deuteronomy 5:16  Says
“‘Honor your father and your mother, as the Lord your God commanded you, that your days may be long, and that it may go well with you in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.”

May it always go well with her, dear Lord🙏🏽
#familyiseverything#mifamilia #floridalife#tampa#caregiverlife
Hello, my name is…
Adelina a/k/a Fly Granny Bk
I thought I’d reintroduce myself because it’s been a while and I have some new followers.
I’m a baby boomer, child of the 60’s and the 70’s and I love the 80s.
I’m Bi-racial, Black and Filipina-Blasian, or Afro-Asian, way before Tiger Woods made it famous.
I’m an eternal Brooklynite now living in Arizona.
I reinvented myself after decades as a designer in NY, and embraced social media in 2019. I have 2 amazing sons, a 
daughter-in-love, and two amazing grandchildren. 
I found love again and remarried in 2022 at the age of 65. It’s never too late to find love or to start over.

This is your cue to Spring forward and follow your dreams.

My mother used to say, if not now-when? And if not you, then Who?
Might as well be YOU!!!

Thank you to all of my followers, old and new.🙏🏽

My goal is to inspire you to live positively, vibrantly, have faith in God, and go after your dreams!!!
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More 70s…
I think I took more photos in the 1970s than any other decade, up until now, that is.
It was such a creative time in vintage NYC for everyone it seems-musicians, artists, photographers all got their groove on. Being immersed in a creative environment at art school provided me with the wonderful opportunity to be both photographed and drawn by my fellow students. I can’t remember who took these!
All great memories.
#tbt#throwbackthursday #blasian#blackandfilipino #vintagephotos #brooklyngirl#vintage70sfashion #newyorkcitygirl

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